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Stephanie leverages nonviolent communication protocols to teach us how to be better communicators. Collaborating with a colleague, there are a range of experiences and styles which can be pleasant or unpleasant. Nonviolent communication helps us shed our assumptions, our judgments, and our claims in favor of authentic communication.
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In her talk titled 'Empathetic Pair Programming with Nonviolent Communication' at the Blue Ridge Ruby 2023 event, Stephanie Minn explores how nonviolent communication (NVC) can enhance collaboration in pair programming. She emphasizes understanding feelings, empathy, and clear expression as essential components of effective communication within a coding partnership. This starts with observing behavior without judgment, followed by expressing feelings connected to unmet needs, leading to clear, constructive requests. ### Key Points Discussed: - **Personal Journey with Feelings**: Stephanie shares her struggle with emotional expression and how it influences her work in pair programming. - **NVC Framework**: Developed by Dr. Marshall B. Rosenberg, NVC encourages authentic connections by reducing assumptions and blame. It consists of clear expression and empathetic listening. - **Observations**: Effective communication begins with describing specific behaviors without criticism to promote understanding. Examples are given on how to avoid labeling or generalization in observations. - **Feelings and Needs**: Recognizing genuine feelings often tied to unmet needs is crucial. Stephanie highlights the importance of articulating personal feelings and unmet needs to foster empathy and connection. - **Power Dynamics in Pairing**: The awareness of power dynamics that exist in the workplace, particularly for marginalized groups, is vital for creating psychological safety. - **Requests**: Making clear, specific requests instead of negative commands encourages a collaborative atmosphere, enhancing mutual understanding. - **Practical Scenarios**: Stephanie presents relatable pairing situations to illustrate how NVC can clarify misunderstandings and improve collaboration. - **Self-Reflection and Continuous Learning**: She stresses the need for ongoing practice in NVC and the importance of feedback mechanisms to continually improve the pairing experience. ### Conclusions/Takeaways: - Pair programming can be better when participants actively work on clear expressions of feelings and empathetic listening. - Effective communication leads to stronger connections and more productive programming sessions. - Self-reflection, practice, and a willingness to address feelings and needs can transform professional interactions into fulfilling experiences. - Learning and applying NVC takes time and continuous effort, but can significantly improve workplace dynamics.
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