In his lightning talk entitled "Shower Thoughts - Being Overwhelmed," John Epperson shares personal reflections on feeling overwhelmed, a sentiment he has grappled with for the past seven years, particularly after the birth of his son. Epperson emphasizes that while many often provide advice on managing stress, he has not found those methods effective. He opens up about the challenges faced as a developer, expressing that it's acceptable to feel overwhelmed in such a demanding career.
He shares a significant turning point in his life when his wife was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after they learned she was pregnant, which compounded his feelings of stress. Epperson also references insights from Dr. K, a psychologist whose discussions have helped him understand that feelings of being overwhelmed arise when external challenges exceed our self-imposed expectations.
- Personal Reflections: Epperson draws from his experience of using daily showers as a meditative space, where he finds clarity.
- Burnout: He outlines his journey through burnout, emphasizing that simply reducing life’s tasks didn’t solve the issue, but maintained the stress ratio.
- Setting Expectations: He discusses the balance problem he faced, where external pressures outweighed his internal expectations.
- Positive Shift: Epperson notes that rather than eliminating tasks, adding fulfilling activities has made a positive impact on his life.
He concludes with an invitation for the audience to connect with him, sharing that while he is not entirely healed, he is on a path of improvement. The key takeaway is that reframing how we perceive challenges can lead to a more manageable and fulfilling life. Epperson ultimately encourages open communication regarding mental health and the importance of addressing feelings of overwhelm.
This talk successfully blends personal narrative with practical insights, making it relatable for attendees facing similar challenges.
